Sunday, 19 September 2021

Charities offer support and advice

CHARITIES are available to help people contemplating suicide and those caught up in the aftermath.

CHARITIES are available to help people contemplating suicide and those caught up in the aftermath.

PAPYRUS (Prevention of Young Suicide) tries to raise awareness of the early signs of stress in young people to prevent their condition becoming so serious that suicide becomes an option.

A spokeswoman said: “They may be tearful, irritable, withdrawn and unable to sleep at night but not able to get out of bed during the day. Their appetite may be affected and their eating habits erratic. They may indicate that the world would be a better place without them and give personal possessions away.”

The charity has found that those at particular risk include youngsters who are very sensitive or unable to cope with criticism or disappointment and struggle to find solutions to problems. They may also be impulsive, perfectionists or people who set themselves unrealistic targets.

Any young person who is feeling suicidal or is worried about someone at risk of killing themselves can call the charity’s HOPEline 0800 068 4141, email pat@papyrus-uk.org or text 07786 209697.

The Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS) charity provides a support group in Henley, which allows people to meet and express their feelings and experiences as well as seeking advice.

Vice-chairwoman Ann Culley said Christmas, birthdays and anniversaries are particularly difficult times and grieving loved ones find their own survival mechanisms. She said it was important to plan for how much time you would like to spend with family and friends and how much alone.

“Then say you will come for lunch or whatever and that you will go home early or whenever you choose,” said Ms Culley. “It’s better if you can drive yourself as then you are free to come and go as you please, which helps.

“You may wish to visit the grave so put that in your plan. If you have a plan then it is much easier. If you have no plan then it is more difficult to say ‘no’ or limit your stay. Be honest and firm so that people can see that you are all right.”

Ms Culley said that when you are alone you should remember the good times together, visit the grave, look at photographs, or listen to music you both liked. She added: “Be sure of one thing, you will get through this.”

The Henley group meets on the third Wednesday of the month. For more information, visit www.uk-sobs.org.uk or call Suzanne or David on 07958 434082.

*Ask them how they were feeling before they started to feel suicidal and how they feel now. Talking about suicide doesn’t make it more likely to happen.

*Listen and try not to be judgemental or critical.

*Empathise by showing you really care about them no matter what.

*Reassure them that desperate feelings are common and can be overcome.

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